“Awkward” is the single most common word that is associated with parents talking to their kids about sexuality. But does it have to be that way?
When God communicated about sexuality in the Bible, He communicated with the highest form of language. It wasn’t clinical. It was poetic. God made it lovely. And, as a result, when He communicates about it, He clothes it in the highest form of language. In my new blog video, I share how you can help your sons catch a grand, beautiful vision for God’s intent for sexuality, without all the typical clinical awkwardness that usually goes with that territory!
ERIC LUDY: I’m going to give an opinion (which is dangerous because who cares about Eric’s opinion, right?), and I will back it up with Scripture. But at the beginning, it’s just an opinion. And this is in regards to communication of sexuality to my children. Again, this is an opinion. This is a parental perspective. I have a high desire for them to catch a grand, epic vision for this area of their lives. And there’s nothing that disturbs grand, epic vision more than clinical terminology. I would say if you take the basic descriptions of male/female — clinical, biological descriptions, it’s like taking a balloon and sticking a pin in it. It just takes all the beauty out of it. And so even in how I’ve communicated with my children, I have epic language — I have vision packaged into the way that I communicate it. And there’s a reason for that.
I started by saying this is an opinion, but clinical language – clinical terminology –has a value. I also want to mention this before I give my conclusive oomph, and that is, it’s sort of like a bridge language. Koine Greek is a bridge language. English, today, is a bridge language, which means it’s something the whole world can understand. And so in our culture, if I start using my epic language or my kids start using it, no one is going to have a clue what they’re talking about because it’s Daddy Ludy’s way of expressing it, right? That’s beautiful inside my family, but I also want my children to understand the clinical language. So, I teach them both. In our training – in the very first phases of the training in Honorable Manhood – I actually don’t go into the clinical, it’s the epic I utilize.
If you are ever interested in taking it, you’ll at least know. I don’t go in that segment – into the clinical. The question could be: so does it become vague by me not being clinical? No. It’s very clear. Any man that goes through it is going to know exactly what I’m talking about. However, he’s not going to just squirm and feel awkward about it. He’s actually going to feel manly and noble and like, This is good that I’m built this way! It all goes back to how God communicated about sexuality in the Bible (The Song of Songs). When He communicated, He communicated with the highest form of language. It wasn’t clinical. It was poetic. And so, for me, whenever sexuality becomes clinical and scientific and biological, it loses its innate beauty. God made it lovely. And as a result, when He communicates it, He clothes it in the highest form of language – which is, of course, my little “oomph” behind my opinion. Since God did it that way, hey, I think that we should, too! It’s a deep passion for me to bring the epic back into this beautiful dimension of life.
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